You
Are On The Religion of Your Friend!
Man's nature is
that he is a social human being and during his/her life he will meet and
befriend many people, these friends will comfort and accompany you throughout
different obstacles and challenges in your life, they are happy when you are
happy and sad when you are sad, your concern is their and vice verse, however
in our time many Muslims have seemed to have lost sight of those who are good be
befriend and those who are not.
The seriousness
of keeping good friends and companions is such that a friend could lead you to
paradise or to hellfire, Allah (SWT) said: "Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as a
friend! (Al-Furqan 25:28)
For the Muslim youth, this concern is on the
mind of every mother and father when they send their children to school or when
their children leave the house, who are they going with? Who are their friends
are college? What do they talk about? But this is not restricted to children only;
rather people of all ages need to be cautious in befriending and socialising
with the wrong crowd. As for the one who should befriend, first of all he
should be the Muslim who believes in Allah (SWT) and Last Day and not a
disbeliever, nor should you befriend those who disobey Allah (SWT) and the
evidence for this is the following ayah, You (O
Muhammad SAW) will not find any people who believe in Allah and the Last Day,
making friendship with those who oppose Allah and His Messenger (Muhammad SAW
), even though they were their fathers, or their sons, or their brothers, or
their kindred (people). (Al-Mujadilah 58:22)
Narrated
Anas bin Malik: While the Prophet (ﷺ) and I were coming out of the mosque, a
man met us outside the gate. The man said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! When
will be the Hour?" The Prophet (ﷺ) asked him, "What have you prepared
for it?... but I love Allah and His Apostle." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "You
will be with the one whom you love." [Sahih
Al Bukhari: (9/93) Hadith 7153) & (9/89) Hadith 267]
Moreover, you should
befriend the Muslims who remain you of Allah (SWT) and your duty towards Him,
those who encourage you from evil, those when you ask for advise, they give you
advise from the Qur'an and Sunnah, those who do not backbite other Muslims nor
do they swear and lie but rather choose the best words. They are those who
remember the Ummah of Muhammad (ﷺ) much, talking about the affairs of the Muslims always and
refrain from talking about matters that are of no benefit and they are those
that have the best of manners.
Friendship based
upon the Deen of Islam and for the sake of the Allah (SWT) is the best of
bonds, whereas friendship based on materialistic bonds, such as status and
wealth are of no benefit and will be a source of regret on the Day of Judgment,
if your friends do not obey Allah (SWT) and have no concern for Islam and the
Muslims. The Messenger Muhammad (ﷺ) said, "Whoever
loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, give for the sake of
Allah and withholds for the sake of Allah has completed his faith."
[It was related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
(40 Hadith 13]
And it has been said: "Nobody is given
anything besides his Islam better than a righteous friend."
Friends on that Day will be
foes one to another except Al-Muttaqun (pious - see V.2:2) (Az-Zukhruf 43:67)
Therefore the friends you have and the environment
you live in effects your belief and behaviour, for example, if you look to how many
Muslims have been affected by living amongst kuffar (disbelievers), to the extent
that many Muslims have adopted their beliefs and customs. Therefore the effect a
bad close friend or friends would have is even greater and friendships are based
on mature understanding and likes, for this reason choosing a good friend is very
important and Muhammad (ﷺ) said hadith, Abu Huraira
(RA) reported that Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “A man is on the religion of his friend, so let each of you observe whom he be
friends.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (4/589) No. 2378, Sunan Abu Dawud (4/259) No. 4833,
Musnad Ahmad (2/334) No. 8398]